We’ve seen the pain that can come up during a wedding and there is an absent parent. This is an issue that’s near and dear to our bride Diana as seen on My Dream Wedding.

As always, the real difficulty with a wedding is that it puts how we wish things were into conflict with reality. They say that out of three major events in life; your birth, your wedding and your death, there is only one you have control over and that is your wedding day.

Parents are a very big part of a wedding and their blessings are important, according to the traditional customs and beliefs. They play important roles such as walking the bride down the aisle and handing over of their little girl to the man of her dreams, sometimes paying for the ceremony, as well as giving advice to the newly weds.

However, due to unavoidable circumstances one or both parents may be absent to experience this important step in life for the bride and groom concerned and one of the reasons may be because they were absent in your life as you were growing up so you feel there is no need to have them present on the biggest event of your life.Whatever you chose to do, there are certain things to think about.

Parents are there for their children and get involved in the emotional, physical and mental growth and the same goes for when you are planning your wedding. So if they were absent throughout your growth, would you then invite them to your wedding?

The wedding will not have to be the ultimate determination of your relationship with your absent parent, but either decision comes with a deep emotional impact. You know that only you alone can make the decision, but if you were in a situation like this, what would you do?

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For those who prefer a simple and intimate ceremony, a vow exchange at the attorney general’s is the way to go. For whatever reasons you may have, be it budget constraints, time or if you just don’t fancy the whole shebang that comes with a white wedding, an attorney general officiated wedding could be a top option.

One such bride Liz, whom we featured on our show our bride said that after waiting for 14 years, her fiancé was just not for the idea of having a big white wedding, so she gave in and chose to have it officiated at the attorney general’s. Without compromising their vision and dreams, they came up with a perfect plan and at the end of the day, they were wed and happy.

Even with the simplicity that came with it, it was still as special and valuable as any other wedding. Her dream was to always have a church wedding but circumstances caused a change of heart. And although she didn’t get to walk down the aisle, her marriage is as legit as could possibly be. For such a wedding there are certain requirements such as witnesses; just like those that congregate in a church.

A minimum of two witnesses is all one needs to get a go-ahead for the exchange of vows. Time keeping is another requirement and unlike the usual lateness that most brides cannot seem to shake off and always get off of easily, there is absolutely no admittance if you turn up late. “This is not like a church wedding where you have everyone waiting for you, this is an A.G‘s office where if you are not there on time the guy will just pack up and leave. He is not obliged to wait for you” Liz narrates. As seen on the My Dream Wedding Show, it involves taking the vows in front of the presiding officiate and then signing the marriage certificate. It’s that simple.

You can chose to have banquet or a party thereafter to celebrate with your friends and family.

At the end of the day, what is important is your love and commitment and however way you choose to make that commitment is up to you, just as long as you are both happy and content.

Here are some classic Bridal shower night advice and ideas to help your party succeed.

With more than enough to occupy the bride’s mind, she’ll be relying on her friends to sort out the specifics relating to the Bridal shower.

The bridal shower is traditionally organized by the brides maid Most of the bridal showers tend to be a surprise Bridal shower. You will rely on the groom to keep an eye on the bride and ensure she is at the venue There is no such a thing as the definitive guide on how to carry a Bridal shower weekend off with perfection, but there are a few rules of thumb that will stop you from making a white elephant out of the whole thing.

The main areas to tick off are: Who? Where? What, When, how of the Bridal shower? How to get there? And what to do? Everything else is just window dressing.

1. Who?

Assuming that the bride is in the know and has selected her sub-committee of Bridal shower organizers, and that this power lobby includes you and a maximum of 2 other people, the chances are that she has given you a list of names that include the following brands of Bridal shower guests: –

The Definite

This is the hard-core soul who the bride wants there no matter what the circumstances. You will probably be on this list and will not have to persuade the others to attend. But you will have to take heed of any dates they will not be available.

The Possible

This will include people who she hasn’t seen for a little while and isn’t sure of how likely they are to come, what with commitments, children and the like. The list will also include the “generally unreliable”, i.e. those who the bride regards as ‘characters’ but who you may view as “pains;”

Have-To’s :This includes the prospective in-laws’ relevant members being invited to proceedings, usually with the bride’s secret hope that they can’t actually come so that she can totally enjoy herself without being on her best behavior but will still look a great daughter-in-law for having offered in the first place!

This also sometimes includes oddballs and space cadets who are long-time friends of someone on the ‘definite’ list, and thereby have to be invited.

Definitely Not’s. Occasionally, the bride in question may have a couple of names who would one day have made the ‘Have To’s’ list, but now, for reasons of violence, betrayal or suspected wrong-doing, are as welcome as gonorrhea. The determined but diplomatic bride will probably suggest picking a date or venue that this person will not be able to make, thereby again making it seem to the aforementioned undesirable that they had been invited to the Bridal shower in fact they were never on the agenda. Be careful with this one though, it can backfire. You may earn your spurs from negotiating this part alone!

2. Where?

The bride will doubtless have penciled down a shortlist of possible locations, though she probably won’t care as long as it meets all her requirements. This is where your real work begins, for the venue has to be somewhere that will be easy enough for everyone to get to without it being somewhere they’ve all been plenty of times before; somewhere that is an exciting prospect, but not so far that the travel costs put people off; somewhere that is original and memorable .A budget return fare by rocket to a health spa/pole dancing class on the moon might not be ideal. Destination bridal showers have become very popular. So If you are planning for an out of town weekend,. Last minute ‘anywhere will do’ jobs might be okay for the guys, but we want what’s best, don’t we! At this point, whilst deciding on where you want to base the fun and frolics, you will also need to know what approximate budget everyone is looking towards. It is no use going off and doing loads of research on a crammed itinerary in if the cost per person doubles that of what most guests can afford. As the coordinator, you have to disprove the famous adage and keep all of the people happy absolutely all of the time.

3. When?

The days of Bridal shower and stag festivities overlapping with the wedding ceremony are thankfully long gone. Nobody would be silly enough to risk a major hangover on the biggest of days, the modern alternative being to honour the Bridal shower’s rite of passage a good few weeks before the wedding. You will need to have two or three alternative dates though before you start making calls and sending emails, particularly if the bride has given you a long list of ‘must haves’. If there is even a chance of an alternative weekend being considered, get the bride to give you one just in case.

4. How To Get There?

This will be closely linked with your decision on where to go and depends on factors like transport, where the guests themselves live, what time each person can get to the hotel on the Friday, what time they each need to get back on the Sunday, etc.

5. What To Do?

A massive part of the success of your weekend will be not so much where you are as what you do. Commonly, the bride will suggest one or two things that she’s heard about or had recommended, but apart from that the itinerary will be in your hands. Naturally, you want a good standard of accommodation and a sit-down Meal while you’re there, but you might be asked to sort out anything from a day’s Pampering to some adrenaline activities too. As with the choice of dates, try to dissuade the bride from being too specific, just in case her original preference hits an availability snag!

Try to imagine what cocktail of events will most suit and please the spread of guests likely to attend – would everyone really go for Quad Biking over a visit to a health spa? – And also consider that you need to hit the middle ground between not having enough to do and having too regimented a line-up. Easy? Yeah, right. The weekend can always have a theme too, should the lady of the hour so desire.

Bridesmaid Dos:

1. Buy your bridesmaid dress, shoes, and any other (Without complaining) and be prepared, to pay for professional make up artist and hairstylist
2. Provide emotional support for the bride throughout her engagement, especially during the often stress-filled final weeks.
3. Offer to help the bride with planning tasks. Try to volunteer for specific duties, like scouting for bridesmaids’ dresses or stuffing invites.
4. Help plan, co-host, and pay for the bridal shower. Contribute financially to these events. Attend as many other pre-wedding parties as your schedule will allow.
5. Budget for your gift giving funds. In addition to a wedding present, you will most likely give gifts at the engagement party, bridal shower, and other festivities. How much should you spend? Purchase or go in on group gifts.
6. At the shower, help record gifts so the couple can write thank-yours.
7. On the wedding day, help the bride get ready before the wedding, and offer to hold on to her makeup bag for touch ups throughout the day.
8. Be there for the bride on the wedding day. Of course you should have a good time, but don’t sneak off on your own in case the bride needs you.
9. Help bustle the bride’s dress before the reception
10. Instigate a packed dance floor at the reception the guests will take cues from the wedding party. Even if nobody else is dancing, don’t be afraid you will make a fool of yourself.

Bridesmaid Don’ts:

1. Don’t show up late – for anything.
2. Don’t burden the bride with tons of last minute questions – if possible point any questions or concerns to the maid/matron-of-honor or another bridesmaid.
3. Don’t make a spectacle of yourself by drinking too much at any of the formal festivities. (However, cutting loose at the bridal shower bash is just fine!)
4. And finally, try not to complain about the style of bridesmaid dress the bride chooses (even if you hate it).
5. Above all – be a good friend!

Did You Know?

The maid of honor’s role isn’t gender-specific anymore. Honor attendants can be men as well as women, and it isn’t unheard of to have more than one honor attendant sharing the privilege of serving as the bride’s trusted confidante and aide. Actually, this is a great way to split the labor and bestow the honor on more than one trusted friend or relative.

Maid of Honor Extra duties

If you are the maid of honor, know that your fancy little title and prestigious place near the alter requires a little extra effort. The maid of honor also has some specific wedding day duties beyond wearing a big smile and keeping the bride happy:

1. Attend one of the wedding dress fittings with the bride
2. Ensure all the maids have gone for their dress fittings, their hair and make is taken care off, they to the ceremony on time and that they have their bouquets
3. Help the bride dress and deal with her hair, jewelry and the unavoidable wedding day jitters.
4. Act as a messenger between the bride and groom (and various and sundry family members).
5. Handle dress and veil issues. Maneuverability could be important here, even in the restroom, so this is an important and sometimes-unexpected duty involving lifting, fluffing, arranging and rear
6. Hold and protect the Groom’s ring.
7. Hold the bride’s bouquet for the duration of the wedding ceremony.
8. Witness the marriage license signing.
9. Participate in the first dance at a formal reception (partnered with the best man).

Wedding style! Wedding style!

What’s new, what’s happening, and what’s stylish now?

You might wear a uniform or follow an office dress code Monday through Friday, and on the weekend, you like to have a little fun with fashion. I am sure you already know that your friend’s wedding is not the place to test drive your new romper or rock those jeans you just splurged on. There are a few gray areas when it comes to appropriate wedding guest attire. Maybe that cocktail dress has a questionable hemline or it might be the same color the bridal party is wearing. There are plenty of clothing options that can turn you into an unintentional eyesore at any union, but you don’t have to earn the ire of every bride and groom you know. Just follow this list of 10 things you should never wear to a wedding, and you’ll keep receiving those invitations!

1.A Tux

There’s only one guy in a penguin suit there today, and it’s not you (unless, of course, the ceremony is a black-tie affair, in which case you, the groom, and every other male in attendance is bow tied out). However, just as it’s in bad taste to upstage the bride, you shouldn’t go out of your way to one-up the groom. Although it’s doubtful he’ll run into a closet and weep or complain about you to all his friends if you show up looking better than he does, it’s just not polite. Yes, we know you can’t do anything to tone down your innate good looks, but the least you can do is dress them down in a coat and leave the super-suit to the man saying “I do.”

2: Jeans and a T-shirt

We don’t care how casual the wedding is and how laid-back the bride in question might be, attending in jeans and a T-shirt is not an option. It doesn’t matter if it’s on the beach, in your couple’s backyard, or even if you don’t know the couple very well. If you’re bothering to show up, the least you can do is throw on a dress or a pair of khakis and a button-up shirt again, assuming it’s a casual ceremony.Also, just to be clear, don’t even think about slipping on a pair of flip-flops. Pumps, heels, flats, loafers and sandals are a go, but plastic footwear is a huge wedding no-no. (Possible exception: If the wedding invite explicitly states that it’s a “flip-flop casual” beach event, you may wear them.)

3. Something Skimpy

Nothing screams “look at me” like a skimpy outfit. There’s nothing wrong with showing off a little leg or décolleté every once in a while, but there’s a time and place for such things, and weddings aren’t one of them. No, you’re not exactly showing up the bride, but showing off your assets is a surefire way to take away from her big day, so don’t do it.

4.Bell bottoms and Other Dated Outfits

Attire Bell bottoms may work for a stylish night out on the town. But try sporting these wide-legged pants at your college roommate’s wedding, and you might as well shake, shake, and shake your booty back to your place for a change of clothes. Disco isn’t cool when people say, “I do.” That’s not to say that you can’t invoke other styles and eras with your wedding guest garb. A 1960s pencil skirt will allow you to turn heads without causing a distraction, and a dress with an empire waist and cap sleeves will invoke the 1940s without making you look like a has-been. Just remember to adhere to the style of the wedding we’ve established that bell bottoms won’t fit into even the most casual ceremonies, but a vintage sundress won’t do at a black-tie affair, either.

5. A Tiara

You’d think we wouldn’t even have to mention this one, but you’d be surprised by what attention-seeking guests have tried to pull off. So, we’ll just state it plainly:Do not, under any circumstances, wear a tiara to any wedding other than your own. Not only is it disrespectful to the bride, it’ll just make you look desperate and ridiculous. This rule, of course, extends to crowns, ornamental headbands or anything else that could be mistaken for a tiara or any other headpiece the bride may choose to wear.

6. Brides maid dress

We know you spend a lot of money on it and it’s not out of style. Slipping it on again for a formal affair might be awfully tempting. But you have to be careful, as there’s a fine line between donning a vibrantly colored formal evening gown and a white, champagne or blush dress that’ll make you look too much a lost brides maid. Use discretion and err on the side of caution. If you’re at all unsure, leave it alone.

7. Black

It’s always in style and looks flattering on almost everybody, but according to some, it should never be worn to a wedding especially for women. Black dresses connote mourning and death for many people, but there’s a difference between showing up to your best friend’s wedding in funeral garb and wearing a sleek, little black number to an evening wedding. As long as the dress feels fun and light, regardless of how dark it is, you should be fine. Sequins usually work, as do black cocktail dresses for formal ceremonies. However, if there’s even the slightest chance it could fit into a procession for the deceased, put it back on the rack and slip into something more colorful.

8.Anything Loud or Garish

People are there to look at the bride, not your obnoxious hat/dress/purse/shoes/ eye shadow. Donning loud or garish apparel and accessories is a surprisingly common method of wedding-crashing women use to upstage the bride. Your outlandish choices might not be directly comparable to the bride’s traditional white garb, but everyone including the new Mrs. Will likely takes them as a sign of extremely poor taste or a desperate call for attention. You’ll get people talking, but you probably won’t like what they have to say!

9. White

It’s never a good idea to wear anything that could conceivably be mistaken for a wedding dress. But, just like the tradition against wearing black to on the big day, we think this rule can be broken if you go about it the right way. A simple, off-white dress or skirt should be fine, and if you want to be absolutely sure you’re not stepping on any perfectly manicured toes, get a glimpse of the bride’s dress before the big day. Make sure your white outfit of choice is dramatically different, so if she’s wearing a full-skirted gown, your slender, white evening gown shouldn’t pose much of a problem. If she’s wearing a simple number, though, pick another color. Even if you look your best in white, you won’t care what color you’re wearing when she’s a staring dagger into your eyes instead of saying “I do.”

10. A Pantsuit

You’re going to a wedding, not a meeting at the office! Drop the business persona and show your style in a skirt, dress or any kind of clothing that would look out of place with a coffee stain. This is a celebration of two people choosing to unite their lives together forever, so the least you can do is find something that isn’t overly stuffy and businessy to wear. We’re not just talking about your standard black or charcoal suit.

This rule also applies to pretty pastel skirt-jacket combos. They might work for a dinner event, but they just set the wrong tone for weddings. Yes, we know some very powerful women frequently wear pantsuits, but even Hillary Clinton wore a vibrant dress on Chelsea’s big day, and if she can do it, you can, too. We’d also advise staying away from businessy accessories trade the giant bag or briefcase for a clutch, and don’t wear any scarves that scream “I belong in cubicle No. 4!”